Why should this year be any different?
How many times have you set goals for yourself and allowed them to wither away as opportunities, business… life gets in the way?
If you're anything like me I always find time to be the perfect excuse. “It just wasn’t right” “I just don’t have enough of it” or perhaps you've just given it the ole middle finger.
So, here we go again…another year upon us bringing with it new goals.
But this year is going to be different. This year — is always different.
And then a bit of time passes, days come and go in their normal form of 24 hours and we are left with excuses of why time didn't work out to accommodate those ambitious ideas, again.
Why should this year bring true change? Because we are going to find its source.
First lets ask ourselves, where does the intention come from? Do we believe in the cause and our ability to create the outcome? Decide what is the difference between a realistic goal and an idealistic desire. Second, does the outcome create positive change? Whether the goal is personal or public, does the result aid in an impactful alternative?
The holidays for me always bring a shift in perspective. This time of year always tempts my patience, and it causes evaluation of the true meaning of happiness. Not to mention it is a good time to let your inhibition go as we eat, drink, and indulge to be merry. And then we expect come January 1st to make monumental changes, seemingly forgetting how hard it is to commit to unattainable goals set in moments of glory.
I have a solution for this year: Forget everything we thought we knew.
Forget the timeline. Forget the silly reasons. Forget the guilt. I propose a fresh start. We can begin by making a conscious decision that the goals we wish to achieve are realistic, attainable, pure hearted, and uniquely, you. Instead of finding what we want to do or what we hope to become lets design our goals to answer who we want to be and what we want to define us. And then the trick is to keep after it.
We have to ween ourselves off of our addictions- Karin armstrong
Breaking habits are hard. The reason so many of our big ideas of change falter is because altering our habits is not easy to do.
Heres an icebreaker on how to start: Get in front of a mirror and strip down. I mean get naked. Like totally, bare-ass naked. Stand and be naked. Be free. Be divinely you. And then sit with yourself. Look at yourself, not just at your body, but use your eyes to dive into your soul. Demand your full attention and peer into your eyes like you are searching for lost treasure. Because that is exactly what we’re doing. We are searching to find the diamond inside each of us. Keep looking. Keep questioning. Keep believing. It's there.
You’ll feel it when it happens, when you’ve reached the moment of openness. At this moment ask yourself what you want. Ask what it is you are striving for in this next measurement of time. Create dreams from what is there, what you feel and what you know. Be raw, pure and passionate and realities of this sort will follow.
I did this a few days ago and heres what I came up with: I want snake scales over my hands and adrenaline through my heart. I want to feel snowflakes on my eyelashes. I want deep belly laughs with uncontrollable force and unknown reasons. I want raindrops over the surface of my skin and sun in my veins. I want bear hugs from friends and passion behind kisses. I want desire. I want curiosity to open my eyes and confidence to close them. I want to run with the wind and then stand against it. I want the warmth of a fire and the dancing glares of flames upon pondering faces. I want the colors of infinite beauty to travel through my eyes and peace to fill my heart. I want thrill; crashing waves, big mountains, dangerously intriguing animals. I want comfort; steaming tea, knitted garments, fresh smells, and shared love. I want challenge; unsure moments of what’s next, big decisions on difficult subjects, frustration of fighting back when you know what’s right. I want reciprocated passion fueled back through deep contentment. I want truth. I want twisting tongues from strange lands and faraway places feeling like home. I want to burry my head in dogs, blankets, and the chest of a good man. I want excitement that seeps out of pores and smiles that break barriers. I want soft skin and rough hands. I want stars illuminated above open grounds. I want big moons reflected in dark eyes. I want joy--unfiltered, raw, pure joy. I want my cells to dance to music of all tunes. And I want my tastebuds to celebrate with diversity and culture. I want to ask why. And of course I want progress. I want to have an impact; a sustainable and positive impact on peoples lives. I want to touch hearts and heal wounds. I want to be defined by the feelings I ignite within others and I want to be a woman of spirit.
I dream of big changes for 2016; I’d like to see the world a better place, humanity continue to utilize sustainable alternatives, I’d like to challenge my physical ability, and pursue my mental clarity. I’d like to feel the growth of a conscious collective. But none of this will happen unless we choose to break habits, unless we step away from comfort and allow growth to form from decomposed priorities.
We need to focus on goals that are realistic, goals we can control. We also need to be humble; is it really more money, vacations, objects that we want? Or is it moments, laughter, and relationships? Maybe its to be in better shape, perhaps its to read more. Maybe its taking time to enjoy the small things, or giving your time and love to a good cause. Either way, any new goal should have at its root happiness. This year let’s choose happiness.
Find who you want to be rather than what you want to do. Become divinely you. At the end of this life the things we own won’t be the things that defined us, it will be the moments, ideas, and feelings that we have given to others.
Practice setting goals when a deep understanding of personal happiness can accompany it. Objectives for our future should be made in mindfulness and with good intention and support. We cannot become our full selves, or an ideal world, without knowing what we are starting with. For a goal to be sustainable- long term- the shift needs to be a lifestyle change. Get down to our most pure form and start there.
Here’s to a year of big moments defined by many small changes, within ourselves, towards the world, and between each other. Here is to a new year of opportunity granted through happiness.
A few memories to conclude the year...